Fathers we need you.
Fathers we are asking you to step up. The Frederick Douglass Foundation of NY is proud to support the local FATHERHOOD-BEGINS-IN-THE-WOMB billboard ( A project created by Ryan Bomberger of the Radiance foundation) and “Am I not a Child Inititive”
Abortion is not a just a “woman’s issue.” The person that the baby in the mother’s womb is destined to become is just as dependent upon the baby’s father as on the baby’s mother.
Dr. Alveda King had this to say: “A human person in the womb has 46 chromosomes; 23 from Dad, 23 from Mom. It takes two, baby…… I honor the memory of my earthly biological father Rev. A.D. King; his father and my grandfather Daddy King, who rescued me from abortion; my Pastor and Mentor Allen McNair; all of whom live in Heaven now with the Greatest Father of all, HEAVENLY FATHER. All praise to GOD, ABBA FATHER, SON JESUS and HOLY SPIRIT.”
Pastor Dean Nelson shared this with us “Too many children in America are growing up without their fathers. We must do everything we can to reverse this curse. Challenging men to take responsibility for their children even before they are born is a step in the right direction. Frederick Douglass made it plain when he said, “it is easier to build strong children that to repair broken men”. Let’s shout it from the rooftops, Fatherhood begins in the Womb!!”
We are in a very vulnerable place today. Our communities are riddled with violence. Every time we turn on the television, we hear about some form of violence or another and then, like clock-work, some “Stop the Violence” campaign is paraded out or some new initiative is started. I am all for addressing violence, but this leads me to two important questions. How can we talk about stopping violence when we teach that violence in the womb is fine? How can we pretend we aren’t joking when we say we’re against violence when we give permission and sometimes even beg for violence on the most innocent and vulnerable in society- our children in the womb?
Abortion is one of the most violent ways to die, and fathers have a role to play in stopping the trend of violence against the pre-born.
In the U.S., 85% of all abortions are performed in the wombs of unmarried women. Many are either pressured to abort by the father of the child, or they are left without support from the father who scurried away like a coward. Chaplain Ayesha Kreutz said:
“I am all too familiar with this statistic, I know that getting pregnant out of wedlock produces an extra strenuous environment for all involved, which is one BIG reason you should wait for marriage to engage in sexual relations, but this is a time we all need to grow up and act like an adult, even if you didn’t want to or weren’t ready to.”
Chaplain Ayesha Kreutz’ husband Matt Kreutz wasn’t as soft as his wife when asked what men should think about abortion in the days leading up to Fathers’ Day:
“Baby slaying at the abortion mill is not a family virtue. Fathers need to realize this just as much as mothers. Babies in the womb aren’t equipped with guns and knives to defend themselves against abortion ‘doctors’ creeping through their mother’s vagina and invading her womb to kill them. If men aren’t willing to protect pre-born babies from being slaughtered in the womb, what use on this planet are we? The consequences of knocking up your girl, even though you might not be ready for kids, is that you’ve got nine months to get ready. That’s the deal. Man up and get ready. Pip squeaks who chicken out of manhood and let their kids get slaughtered at the abortion mill deserve nothing but scorn.”
According to the Guttmacher Institute, the former research arm of Planned Parenthood, things have gotten worse for the most vulnerable. Among women who are seeking abortions:
- 75% are the poor and working poor,
- 59% are already mothers,
- 61% are women of color.
- Half of all abortions are repeat abortions
Women are remarkable and resilient. We can give single moms their due for not only choosing life but also for all that they do to provide for their kids. We can do that all the while acknowledging the Godly notion that two-parent homes are the ideal place for kids to be raised. This is not an insult. It’s just the way God envisioned things. Nonetheless, circumstances do not always turn out ideal. In those cases, we adjust and do our best. At the same time, we can be honest and admit that every piece of evidence shows that all families are not equal.
On children who aren’t in a two-parent home, here are some stats:
- 5 times more likely to live in poverty
- Nearly one third of single female-led households live in poverty
- 9% of single male-led households live in poverty
- 8% of two-parent married homes live in poverty
“Compared to children living with married biological parents, those whose single parent had a live-in partner had more than 8 times the rate of maltreatment overall, over 10 times the rate of abuse, and nearly 8 times the rate of neglect.” –Administration of Children & Families, Dept. of Health & Human Services, pg. 12, “Fourth National Incidence Study of Child Abuse and Neglect”, 2010.
Although many single parents bravely do all they can do to raise and love their children, the simple truth is that single-parenthood is not the best situation for our children or for our future.
Fathers, where are you? We need you.
There are a series of issues we have to address
Men, who’ve chosen to have sex and then to avoid any and all responsibility for the natural result of said sexual activity, have no excuse. Real men stand up and take on the responsibility of their actions. Those who don’t are not real men.
Nonetheless, the government has failed miserably at protecting the rights of fathers. Presently, men have no legal say in what a woman does to his child in her belly. As well, the court system overwhelmingly favors the women in custody cases. While this may be necessary in some circumstances, this unequal weighing of rights in the court of law actually has the side consequence of alleviating the man’s obligation when it comes to children. Men need to realize that, while the court of law sees them as useless reprobates when it comes to children, they actually do have the obligation to step up and to fulfill their God-given responsibilities to provide for their children in every way possible. Boys that only live up to the expectations of the court, which are very low, are boys that fail to live up to any expectations. Manhood alludes them, and their babies get killed.
A person is an organism with unique human DNA, governing his or her own maturation from conception to natural death. Every person bears the image of God. Any person, therefore, demands our utmost dignity, respect, and protection—man, woman, boy and girl—from the womb to the tomb. An attack on the dignity of one of the least of God’s children is an attack on the personhood of us all.
Thank you to all the fathers that have manned up.
For those on the verge of skipping out on manhood, respect and adoration is your reward for manning up. Societal scorn is the consequence of girlie-boying out. By the way, men who step up for children that have been abandoned by their real fathers are just as valuable and should be just as adored and respected. Fatherhood is fatherhood.
Please take a moment to sign our statement of Concern for Monroe County HERE and Check out the Fatherhood Begins in the Womb Project
For more information or statements, please contact Chaplain Ayesha Kreutz at 585-615-9551